Gay & Lesbian issue: a survey of a normal Chinese lesbian

          A survey of A Normal Chinese Lesbian
     Comparing to gay group in china, so-called "la la" which is a lesbian group is not be well known in china. But this group always exists in Chinese society, and they start make it become bigger and bigger. Their intentions are to get understand and support by public.
     Four years ago, TONY never thought about there would have so many people just like herself. As a professional photographer, she looks pretty and always wears baseball hat. She likes wearing man style black shirt and jeans, and hold girlfriend's hands chill in a lesbian bar.This bar is a small one near Beijing national stadium. Every Saturday afternoon , from 2pm.to 6pm,this bar is the lesbian group's certain place.all men visitors be refused to go inside.The middle of the bar has a big long table, and a big TV in a corner, these lesbians sit around the table and chat with each other. the TV always displays some lesbians TV show so that match the atmosphere .Every time, they have a host, the host pick up a topic to let them talk and think. Such as the problem of safe sex, or how to face the pressure from family as a lesbian,etc. When the host talk about something, the bar is so quiet , and they will start talking after the host request them to talk about it.TONY has a girlfriend who is date with her almost 7 years, and they are planning to get married the next year.but because Chinese government does not acknowledge lesbian marriage so that they only can get married in private. But they have already decided to do it , so whatever they will face to, they will be a couple.
     Actually, TONY was a normal girl when she was young. but she liked playing with female. And she best friend was over close to her, they played together, studied together, even sometimes sleep together. Gradually. tony found her rely on this girl and have passion on her. so she misunderstand this feeling with love. after tony went to university, she started finding some girls to date, and gradually built up the habit that she liked girls to touch her and care about her. so she started the road of being a lesbian.after that, TONY though she is a "problem person. until now.
     In fact, TONY is just a model of the lesbian group. Thousands of them have similar story to be a homosexual. but they are not "problem person", they need public care about either. I believe they will figure the problem out soon.

gay&lesbian issue: a famous Chinese gay movie

     This week, i was thinking of watching a movie at home, so out of curiosity, i watched a famous Chinese gay movie called "happy together",which acted by famous actor Liang Chaowei and Zhang Guorong.
     In this movie, there are two main characters,He Baorong and Li Yaohui, they are a gay couple.They love each other so much. They travel to Argentina for fun, He Baorong bought a gift from street for Li yaohui.But the waterfall on the gift attracts both of them. So they decied to find the waterfall which is a ideal place for them.But unfortunately, the are lost in the way to find the waterfall , and they argue and complain each other, gradually, He Baorong is tired of Li Yaohui, so he left sneakingly. It means they break up. But they meet each other in couples of months by accident, and they still like each other so they decide to start relationship again. A sentence is always repeated in the movie is“let us start from beginning again'. So this time they are treasure and take care of each other very much . Rong do jobs so that they have income for life. Hui just chill at home and hang out on streets. After long time, problems cone again. Because Rong suspect Hui cheat on him when he go to work , so they fight and start hating each other. This time, Hui left and back to Hong kong. After Hui left, Rong start introspecting, and regret himself did not treasure their love.And he understand that not everything can start from beginning again.
     This movie is very moving , it not only reports real life of gay people to audience, but also tells us a lesson: we should treasure our love before we lose it, and not everything can be started from beginning again.
               

Gay & Lesbian issue: Will gays gain their own rights in China?

Will gays gain their own rights in China?

    Gays in China have been officially announced as non-morbid,but social discriminate this group still very serious. Same-sex marriage in some western countries have got legal guarantee, but china's gay marriage is still difficult and have a long way to go.
   With the development of internet, more and more same sex websites show up. These websites create big stages for those gays and lesbians. Many homosexual try to announce their rights through website. But China's society has "gay doubt" phenomenon , because people always afraid of something that they don not understand clearly and it is said terrible usually.  Especially for young people, on one hand , they do not have enough capacity to determine their sexual behavior direction. On the other hand , they want to explain homosexual but they can not do it clear. so they just want to avoid it and ignore it.so if Chinese homosexual want to get rights, there is no shortcut for them. they must stand in front of public and change other people's mind and try to persuade them to gain their rights. Obviously, it is very different and need a long time, nut the society is always moving forward, i believe with the people's understand and efforts. homosexual people will gain their proper rights one day for sure.

Gay & Lesbian issues: China has gay-straight marriages problem

        Gay-Straight Marriages are Big Problem in China

     Almost 20 million gay people are married to straight women or will marry in the future. Experts estimate 16 million Chinese women are married to gay people.

     There are some big issues for women get married with gay men. First,lots of gay men have AIDS and other STD. So, woman who married to gay people have a greater risk of contracting those disease. Second, gay people have straight marriage is not fit for them because they can not be themselves. So they tend to vent their frustrated mood on their wives and kids, and then domestic violence will happen frequently.  Third, gay people usually are lack of confidence so that most of them have no job and can not make enough income to support their families. But get a divorce is difficult in China , and according to China's marital law, wives can't get compensation after they divorce with gay husbands. on the other way,these women worry about divorce will hurt their children and lose their faces so they have to live with gay husband for whole life. This point is really sad. 

     In conclusion,it's a really hard life for straight women get married with gay men. So i really wish government can pay attention to these problems and solve it as soon as possible.